Toy Story 3 and “Trust”

The kids and I took Bryan to see Toy Story 3 in 3- D, for Father’s Day, thanks, in part, to his parents as they had given us gift cards for the movies.  Taking a family of 6 to the movies now a days costs a pretty penny!  It was the first time either Michael or Joshua had ever been to a movie theater.   It was a day of both new experiences and careful planning.

We got to the movie theater in time for the 1:45 PM showing but since we wouldn’t be able to sit together, we opted to buy tickets for the next showing, instead.  So, the joy was to figure out what to do for an hour and a half until the next show time.  We walked around outside and came across a really neat game store called Games and Gizmos.  It had games based upon a European style that were based on thinking and strategy.   Really interesting games for young and old alike.  The owner’s mother, a former 40 year public school educator, was kind enough to allow us to hang out for a little over an hour while we tried out games and showed me a lot of games that would interest Joshua, as well as Michael.  She told us of game nights they offer, so I got her information to see if some home schooling families would be interested in hosting a game night.  Regarding Joshua’s quirky behavior, she was quite encouraging, having worked with countless autistic children in her time as an educator.  She had a lot of positive things to say about Joshua, and felt he would do just fine, despite his autism.

After we left the game store, with numerous ideas for gifts down the road (the Anti-Monopoly Game, for example), we went to the movie theater to get in line.  We were fortunate that Joshua was staying dry and, most importantly, there was a display of the next Narnia movie coming out in December:  The Voyage of the Dawn Treader.  The older kids, Bryan and I were excited to see that but Joshua was thrilled to have a helm to play with and spin, and spin, and spin…I was relieved, to be honest, as it kept him occupied aside from our trips to the bathroom.  The challenging thing for Joshua was how to keep him from crawling on the ground as much.  My mother’s voice about all the germs on the ground rings in my ears when he does this, but, considering how much he does this behavior, and whatever need he is filling by doing it, I pretty much let him, within reason, crawl, as long as he doesn’t bother other people or get in their way.  I waited with Joshua by the helm, steering wheel thingy, while Bryan got in line with the other kids.  Once they were close to letting us in, I brought Joshua over to our troop.  Bryan held him, despite his struggling, as my arms were worn out, trying to keep him from crawling away.  He tends to do the “dead man drop” when he doesn’t want to go somewhere and the boy’s healthy diet is causing him to put on some solid weight.

After we got into the movie theater, he was quite excited, as were the other kids, by all the interesting sights and cool seats.  We chose seats in the back, near the stairs and I sat on the end with Joshua on my lap.  He went between excited and interested in what he was seeing, to squirming and wanting to go run around.  Add to this the 3D feature and he would allow the glasses on for a brief time, and then throw them off, onto the ground.  Dear Sarah had to retrieve them twice under the chair in front of us, not an easy task with stadium seating.  I ended up taking Joshua to the bathroom at least 4 times.  He went 2 out of the 4 times.  I had to smuggle in his own snack of an apple and some frozen peas, which I brought out at opportune times to help him settle down.  Joshua was into the movie for chunks of times but the amount of stimulus seemed just to much for him.  The final trip out of the theater was the last, and I took the back pack and headed down the stairs, slightly ahead of him and waited as he crawled down each stair, checking out the lights as he went.    That worked out fine as I was still able to watch the movie.  During the last 5 minutes, while Joshua was making his way down the stairs, and then along the exit, I had hoped to catch the last of the movie.  I even tried, unsuccessfully, to pick him up so I could watch the last scene.  He didn’t go for that and started to protest loudly, so I gave up and took him out.  He went right to the helm and started spinning it, once again.  I’m looking forward to when the movie comes out on DVD as, from what I was able to watch, it looks like a great movie!  Our next movie experience will either be at home, or perhaps one of the movie times geared toward sensory processing disordered kids.  Now that would be interesting!

So, what does “Trust” have to do with this post?  Well, it just so happens that on Father’s Day, at our parish, our dear priest, Fr. Daniel gave a wonderful homily about a reading from the Gospel of Luke 9:18-24.  In reflecting on the verse:

Then he said to all,

“If anyone wishes to come after me, he must deny himself

and take up his cross daily and follow me.

For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it,

but whoever loses his life for my sake will save it.”

Fr. Daniel commented:

Let’s be honest:  we pray so that God will save us from making hard decisions; Jesus prays before he makes a decision.  We pray to keep our personal status quo; Jesus prays that the kingdom will come.  We pray in order to avoid the cross; Jesus prays to embrace the cross.

I can’t begin to count the number of times that people have complained about their plight as if somewhere God had promised them a rose garden.  Jesus didn’t make that promise.

We imagine that “taking up our cross” is putting up with life’s burdens.  The cross is not a burden, it is an instrument of capital punishment.  The cross means living daily as someone condemned, stripped of everything that gives me safety and security, standing nakedly alone.  Do you pray like Jesus; do you pray to take up the cross?  I know I don’t.  Jesus asks it nonetheless.  Suffering and the cross are powerful teachers of despair or trust.  It depends on how you pray it.

It begins with lookig at what, or more properly, Who stands behind the cross.  It is God’s trasnforming love made visible in Jesus, and God asks you to live with His Spirit.  Put it simply:  the same sort of love and mission that was in Jesus, should be in us.

Is it any wonder that the most fearsome prayer is the Our Father…if we take it seriously? Jesus calls us to pray as He does.  The same transforming love should lead us to pray, live, work, and yes, even to die for others.  He holds up the cross and asks us to decide for it…

As I have been reflecting on Fr. Daniel’s homily this week, I am struck with the fact that I must trust the Lord completely to guide us in how to care for Joshua.  After all, He created him and knows how he is put together.  It’s not easy and there are many times I have no idea what to do.  But, God knows what will help him, and what won’t.  He has placed people in our lives to help us along the way.  When I take time to pray and ask for insight, the Lord always seems to give me something that will help me, whether it is an behavioral intervention or someone to talk with that has another perspective.  I am so grateful.  The Lord created Joshua as a precious child of His, and Bryan and I are privileged to be his parents.  We must rely on His wisdom to help us raise him to become all he was created to be, ultimately, for God’s glory.  God has a plan for his life and it’s exciting to see how it will unfold.  I mean, look at the Cross and what came after it…Easter!

His ways are not our ways and His thoughts are not our thoughts…Isaiah 55:8

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